10/3/2011 2:42 PM
Though some will never admit it, nearly everyone has what could be called a “nerdy” interest or hobby. Some people like ghost hunting or dressing up in Renaissance garb, while others are crazy about World of Warcraft or Magic: The Gathering. So when, if ever, should online daters reveal their nerdy hobby? In their profile? On a first date? Once in a serious relationship? The answer to this question depends on who you ask.
Guyism.com’s Jason Epstein believes men should keep nerdy interests off their online dating profiles.
“It’s great if you have super cool interests and you’re happy to flaunt them, but online dating make you subject to brutally quick decision making and you definitely want to keep away from anything sophomoric, questionable, or weird,” he writes.
Alyssa Bereznak, the Gizmodo blogger who infamously trashed her date’s passion for Magic: The Gathering, takes the opposite approach, arguing that singles should be up front about any “geeky” passions.
“Just like you're obligated to mention you're divorced or have a kid in your online profile, shouldn't someone also be required to disclose any indisputably geeky world championship titles?”
Personally, I think online daters should be honest about who they are, particularly when a hobby or passion is a big part of their lives. If you enjoy a “nerdy” hobby several times a month, be up front about it in your profile. Why? You’ll have a hard time making a long-term match if you can’t be your true self. Plus, why waste time with someone who doesn’t understand, or at least tolerate, your passion when there are plenty of other singles who will? Try PlanetLoveMatch.com’s niche communities to find men and women who share your geeky interests.
Do keep in mind, however, that a hobby or passion is (hopefully) only one aspect of your personality. In other words, if you’re into Renaissance fairs don’t let Renaissance garb photos dominate your online dating profile or attempt to communicate in Old English only. If you wish to find a compatible match you must let singles see the real you as well as the hobby you.