9/30/2012 7:32 PM
First dates can be either great or horrible, and what often makes them great can also be things that can make them horrible. What we mean is that your date can be great if there is mutual attraction, but horrible if there's not (or if one person is interested but the other person isn't), or it could be great if there's fun conversation and horrible if there's nothing but awkward silence. But which one is worse—no attraction or nothing to talk about?
When you meet up with someone that you met online for a first date, you may discover that they don't look a thing like their pictures—it's an unfortunate side-effect for people using old, outdated, or unnaturally-flattering pictures. While personality is important in a relationship (obviously), for a relationship to even get off the ground, there needs to be some sort of attraction. And on a first date, you're dealing with physical attraction, not personality attraction. So finding out that there's no spark between the two of you when you first meet can make the rest of the date feel long.
But a date with someone you're not attracted to isn't nearly as bad as a date with someone who you can't even have a conversation with. At least with someone you don't want to bring home that night, you can sometimes still forge a decent night with good conversation. When you can't even have simple small-talk or find some common ground with someone, the date drags. And drags. And then it drags some more. Thankfully, you're only on the hook for one night, but that one night can seemingly last forever.
Which do you think would be worse to deal with on first date?