6/14/2012 2:56 PM
When you're perusing people's profiles online, looking for your next Mr. or Mrs. Right (or Right Now), you'll probably come across some profiles that seem like a giant red light that blinks, "NO! DO NOT DATE!" We've all seen profiles like this, so let's take a second to discuss three big red flags you definitely don't want in your own profile.
1) "I think online dating is a waste of time." If a person thinks it's such a waste of time, why are they on the site in the first place? Just browsing through photos? Don't get caught up with someone who thinks what you're both doing is a joke. Sure, it can feel silly sometimes, and people can be insecure about online dating, but you don't want to get stuck with someone who ultimately resents or is ashamed of the way they met you.
2) Talking poorly about an ex. Plenty of profiles mention not what the person is looking for, but what they're not looking for. "My ex is a cheating skank! No cheaters! I'm tired of dishonest women!" or "My ex was a lazy deadbeat father. My next boyfriend has to step it up!" are huge red flags that the person you're looking at has some baggage left over. You know what they say: the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. Harsh words for people they previously loved means you might be next on their verbal hit list. You can do better than that!
3) "NO MORE DRAMA." In the same vein as talking poorly about an ex, saying that you don't want drama is a pretty huge indication that drama usually surrounds you. And, as we all know, the people who love drama the most are the people who talk the loudest about how much they hate it. If you want a bumpy ride, arguing, and jealousy issues, go for it. But if you want a stable, caring relationship, you might want to think about people who "HATE drama."
There are other red flags when it comes to online dating, but these three are probably the biggest and most all-encompassing. Make sure you don't have them in your profile!
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