9/24/2012 5:31 PM
How many times have you met someone you liked, only to be told after several dates that they "just got out of a relationship," or "aren't looking for anything serious"? If you're like me, it's probably at least ten times, and frankly, I'm kind of getting tired of it. Hung up on an ex or aren't looking for a real relationship? Why are you on a dating site and going on dates? Being honest and up front about what you want is important, even if you think it might hurt the person you're telling.
Telling someone before you get even a little bit involved what your situation may sound presumptuous (after all, maybe they aren't looking for a relationship either), but it can be framed in such a way that makes you come out on top. No one wants to invest time and emotions into a lost cause, and though the honesty might sting a little if they were interested in you, they'll appreciate that more than being led on.
If, however, you realize after a few dates that although you thought you were ready for a relationship and actually aren't, it's your responsibility to tell the person you've been seeing as soon as you can—as previously mentioned, no one wants to invest the time into a relationship that's already over before it's begun.