I don't know if this is just a thing in my generation, but as a woman in her mid-20s, it seems that every first date I go on, no matter how it goes, the guy will send a text message of warm salutations after we have said goodbye. It's usually something to the effect of "I had a good time tonight, we should do this again," but the thing is, it's often sent by guys who have zero intention of ever seeing me again.

So can we just stop with this nonsense? If you had a good time, cool. If you want to say so, fine, do so at the end of the date. If you feel that saying "we should do this again" or some variation, when you don't really feel that way, is necessary, just stop.

Getting this text message is almost becoming a sort of nail-in-the-coffin with dates. As in, if I get one, I can usually correctly assume that I'll never see that guy again. And frankly, it's annoying, especially if I thought the date went well. Why we can't just move on without flowery communication if there weren't mutual feelings is baffling, but perhaps it has something to do with the male ego and the idea that if they don't like a certain girl, her world will be crushed.

Maybe that's a generalization, but it's frustrating that some men seem to think women need reassurance that they did okay on the date, even if the guy wasn't feelin' it. It's far easier to simply let your date go home after you've said goodnight. If you don't really want to see him or her again, then don't bother saying anything—even if you think you're just being nice.

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