2/10/2012 1:42 PM
What happens if you're dating someone who has a really high sex drive and yours just doesn't quite measure up? Maybe you work a lot, and it's kind of tough to find the time to have sex as often as your partner wants to. This doesn't need to be a deal breaker, but it does need to be dealt with. If you ignore your partner's requests it could hurt their feelings, and if you're straining yourself to meet their needs the sex will lose its luster. So, what are you supposed to do?!
Jennifer Tapiero, Josh Nasar and dating, relationship and life coach DeAnna Lorraine discussed some of the best ways to handle this nookie nightmare!
Some people are content with having sex once or twice a week; other people need it more often than that. In an ideal world where no one had to worry about work or paying the bills, who would argue with tons of sex? Probably no one, but that's not realistic and that job and those bills can definitely throw a wrench in the gears of relationships!
What do you do if you just can't meet your partner's desired sex quota for the week? Well, first and foremost you discuss it! It sounds awkward, but it doesn't need to be. A lot of times people who need sex more often don't just need it for the physical aspect. There's more of an intimate and emotional feeling for them, and they can feel neglected or unwanted if that physical relationship isn't there or is irregular.
For people like this, you need to reassure them that you really care about them and find them attractive, but work sometimes gets in the way. Ask them if the number of times you're capable of having sex each week is going to be an issue and then take the situation from there.