9/6/2012 5:33 PM
Nearly all of us have been there—we go on a date or two with someone, and while we don't necessarily have a bad time or have to deal with tons of awkward silence, we can tell that it's not going anywhere. Problem often is, the other person isn't on the same page and wants to keep dating. So what do you do when you're pursued by someone but aren't interested in taking it further than it's already gone? Well, if you're older than 17, congratulations, you're an adult, and that means you have the responsibility to tell them.
We won't lie—when we're asked out by someone we're not all that interested in, it's all too easy to want to not return the phone call or text message, or even make the plans then break them last minute. We get it. It's hard to disappoint someone, and ego aside, we don't want to hurt them. But it's more hurtful to blow them off or break plans than it is to simply let them down easily.
Rejection sucks no matter how many times it happens, and if you like someone the last thing you want to hear is that they don't like you the same way or as much. But it's better than asking someone out and never hearing from them again, and wondering if there was something you did wrong, or if they are just a jerk, or if they were grossed out by you, or whatever.
Instead, being an adult means you have the responsibility to clue them in on what you're thinking. If it makes you feel bad, that's fine, but most often, the person would rather hear that while you had a good time, you don't want to lead them on and feel that you didn't have much in common/want different things/you're too busy for a relationship. Do it.