6/18/2012 2:34 PM
After a while on the online dating grind, things can start to feel a little tired. When you see the same 30-or-so faces more frequently than most other profiles (based on your search parameters), and those 30 people are people you don't find especially interesting, you may start to wonder what the point is of even being part of an online dating website. But, thankfully, there's something you can do to change things up and (hopefully) turn your luck around!
If your search categories have been narrowed to the point that you're seeing the same people over and over, you might want to reconsider being "picky." For example, are you only searching within 20 miles of your home? Do you only want to date people with brown hair? Looking for your mate to be working in a certain profession? All of these things can severely limit the amount of profiles you see on a day-to-day basis.
Considering branching out can seem like a scary thing to do, but in the grand scheme of things, it can't hurt. And if we're being honest here, it's probably not good to have such a rigid set of "wants" for your potential matches.
When you're online dating, it's especially important to keep an open mind when it comes to what you're looking for. And you never know—you could end up finding someone who you really like. With things like what a person looks like, especially, you'll probably have more luck if you don't rule out large chunks of the population based on what you think you want.
In the meantime, if you really don't want to change your parameters for what you're looking for, it might be a good idea to scroll through those same 30 people's profiles again and see if there's something (or someone!) you might have missed. If you still can't find someone you like in your matches, it's okay to take a few days off from searching. Sometimes, it's when you stop looking for something that you find it, right?
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