3/21/2012 2:47 PM
In this segment of Planet Love Match Radio, Jennifer Tapiero and Josh Nasar welcomed Helen Hong, an accomplished comic, actress, TV host, matchmaker and wingwoman to the show. She gave the duo a little advice on what time frames are acceptable for replying to an email and when it’s ok to exchange phone numbers.
Jen started things off by asking Helen her thoughts on replying to emails on an online dating site. A lot of people think it’s a great idea to play hard to get and wait a few days, but Helen totally disagrees and even thinks doing something like that could kill your chances!
“If you’re interested…I would say it keeps the momentum going if you reply immediately and it makes them excited. It makes them happy…If you’re waiting it just drags everything slower,” she said. Helen also explained that emailing someone is a gutsy move. You’re really putting yourself out there, so leaving someone who has been so bold waiting for days or even a week is pretty inconsiderate. By the time you get back to them, they may not even be interested anymore."
Josh did bring one great suggestion to the table when it comes to responding to someone and Helen agreed with his point. It’s a great idea to type out your response, save it as a draft, walk away from it for like 10 minutes and then come back and look it over again before you send it. This allows you to write it with passion and excitement, but also make sure that spelling and grammar is on point and that you don’t sound like an overly excited whack-a-doo!
When it comes to exchanging numbers, the rules are a little more fluid. If you want to get to know someone really well before you take that step, that’s perfectly fine. Other people would rather chat on the phone or just set up a time and place to meet in person. This is much more a preference than a rule.