If you usually ask your dates personal questions on the first date, listen up! This is not a good idea. Asking very personal questions on a first date is not only rude and a bit invasive, but it can make your date feel as though he or she is under a microscope. Personal question-asking can ruin an otherwise good date.

For example, if, somehow, the topic of your last relationships gets brought up, it’s in poor taste to ask your date why their last relationship ended. Not only is it none of your business, but it can put a damper on the mood of your date—especially if it was a messy breakup. Even if they are over it, rehashing a painful or embarrassing story is not a good way to make your date go well.

Personal questions are meant to be either private, or only asked once you know the person much, much better. Asking questions about their previous relationships and their sex life should be absolutely, NEVER asked on the first date. Regardless if a person claims to be “an open book,” these questions are disrespectful – why do you need to know how many people your date has slept with?

Remember, when you’re on a date – don’t ask any questions that would make your date feel under pressure or uncomfortable.