In this segment of Planet Love Match Radio, Jennifer Tapiero and Josh Nasar welcomed dating and relationship expert Lorna O and life coach and author Steve Truitt into the studio to talk about the best ways to handle conflict in a relationship.

Lorna stressed how important it is to understand how each person fights and find out why they react to disagreements the way that they do. Sometimes you will need to get some air though and that’s fine too.

“It also depends too on what you’re arguing about,” she said. “Sometimes you have to walk away from it because it’s just too big to solve and women take time because we can’t articulate everything we’re feeling at the drop of a penny, so sometimes we back off and get quiet and we don’t know what to say. Guys do the same thing because sometimes women tend to drop an H-bomb out of nowhere after we’ve been percolating for about a month.”

Another important thing to understand is people fight to win. We want to be right more than anything else and that is going to be where our attention is in the heat of the moment. Steve Truitt said to try asking what you’re missing rather than pushing your perspective. You both need to comprehend where the other person is coming from in order to resolve anything.

“The best conversation is always listening,” said Steve. “If you’re a good listener you’re going to have a great conversation.”