5/31/2011 2:35 PM
On Planet Love Match, there are several choices our users can pick from when it comes to what kind of relationship they’re looking for. Still, even if your chosen user’s settings indicate that they’re not looking for anything serious, it’s still unadvisable to request physical contact in your first message.
Above and beyond everything else, your first message to a potential match should be little other than an introduction – and keep it polite! Even if the person is looking for a more casual relationship (or no relationship at all), they still may not want be interested in every person who messages them.
Suggesting that the two of you enter in a sexual relationship in your very first message is not only disrespectful, but also presumptuous.
Furthermore, not every person you message asking for this is even interested in a casual relationship – to ask for otherwise is inconsiderate. Even if the person finds you attractive, if they want a more serious relationship, your request may make them feel uncomfortable and unsure of how to respond.
Overall, leave your first messages for a polite introduction and not much else. Feel free to make jokes and comment on the profile you just read, but keep requests for physical intimacy for later on!