4/16/2012 3:19 PM
In this segment of Planet Love Match Radio, Jennifer Tapiero and Josh Nasar welcomed matchmaker Chelsea Autumn into the studio to chat about when and how to bring up marriage and taking relationships to the next level.
Chelsea is a firm believer that people should not get married in their 20s, saying that people are still figuring themselves out at that point. This doesn’t mean that you don’t want to know someone’s thoughts on the subject or whether or not they’ve been married before. Bringing up the subject of matrimony is not a bad thing, but it has to be done carefully. Asking someone their take on marriage is an ok question for a third or fourth date. In the same way, if you’ve been married before you should probably give your new love interest a heads up. Not because there’s anything wrong with that, but because you don’t want to seem like you’re hiding things.
As far as knowing when someone has gotten to a point in their life where they have a solid grasp on their identity and what they want in life it’s a matter of trial and error. You just need to really get to know someone to find out if that level of commitment is something they are ready for. Maybe it will happen in their early 20s because they have always been a mature person or maybe it’ll take them into their 30s to figure things out. It’s all dependent on the specific individual. There’s no right or wrong answer.