6/21/2012 5:21 PM
When you're online dating, taking the chatting and messaging relationship from onscreen to off can be a bit daunting, but it's really not that bad. The one thing you have to do, though, is make sure that you don't pick a terrible first date idea. Some people come right out and ask people out before getting to know them online, and let's just say that from my own personal experience, these suggestions do not work.
Far and away the best, weirdest, and worst date idea I've seen is someone asking me to go apartment hunting. First of all, no one really likes doing that in the first place, even for themselves. Second of all, especially if you don't even live in the area (this man lived out-of-state), it puts a huge pressure on your date to entertain you, to show off their part of town, etc. In other words, you're making them do all the work. But most importantly, first dates are not for doing almost-married-couple things. First dates are meant for getting to know one another. Apartment hunting as a first date idea is not only awkward, but confusing in the sense that why does some random stranger want your help picking out a place? You certainly aren't the one living there, so why? WHY? No. Just no. Steer very clear away from asking someone to apartment-hunt with you and you'll be good.
But we're not out of the woods, no siree. The next weirdest suggestion was one that a potential suitor asked a friend of mine to: an exhibit on death at a local museum. Okay, this one might not sound bad, because plenty of people find death fascinating. But for a first date, you can do a lot better. Unless the person has expressed specific interest in seeing something like this, it might seem like a real creepy idea to suggest. Museums are fine, but for off-the-wall exhibits, it might be best to wait a while to bring them for go with a closer friend.
Another bizarre first-date outing thankfully doesn't get suggested that often, but when it does, hoo-boy is it awkward. If you have ever had someone ask you on a date and disclose that the date is not with just them, but with either their super-close friends or (gasp) even their family, you might want to steer clear. Having a great relationship with one's friends and family is mandatory for most people, but there's a time and a place to have your significant other meet your parents, and the key word here is significant—not ever a first date.
What's the weirdest date you've been asked out on?
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