8/26/2012 3:11 PM
When you're on a first date with someone new, conversation topics can be a little hard to come up with, especially if one or both of you is nervous. But there are a few topics that should be avoided, and though they seem obvious to some of us, other people need a reminder now and then. With that said, here is a topic of conversation you should always avoid on first dates: anything regarding other people you're dating.
It seems obvious enough, right? But on more than one occasion, I've found myself on the receiving end of hearing details about another woman that a guy I am out with is seeing. In the last instance, said date told me how nice it was to work in a bar, because he "got girls' phone numbers all the time." Um,... okay?
When you're dating around, it's safe to bet that even though someone is seeing you, they're also seeing other people. And regardless of seriousness, it's never something that your current date wants to hear about. It's not so much that it's hurtful to hear, it's that it's rude for someone to talk about all the other potential dates they've got. Furthermore, it's pretty awkward.
Sitting across the table from someone as they talk about other people they're seeing or even other prospects they have it uncomfortable—what do you say back? Following the "this is rude to talk about" rule, I chose the "smile and nod" route, followed by the "don't answer his texts" route. If someone shows you on the first date that you aren't enough for them (and maybe that's a bit overdramatic, but it's kind of true, no?), it's their loss, not yours.