10/16/2012 11:45 AM
I’ve been perusing the site HeTexted over the past week or so. And, I can say with even more conviction than before that texting is the absolute worst form of communication when you are just starting a romantic relationship.
A Smiley is Worth Zero Words
Seriously. Do not try to figure out what he meant by answering with a winking emoticon. At their very most expressive, they are modifiers that indicate how whatever words used with them should be taken. But, even then, they are quite open to interpretation. Does the winking smiley means that he’s having wicked thoughts about seeing you tonight? Or that you shouldn’t read anything into his “we should get together”?
“Take Care” Is Not a Secret Code Phrase
I see a lot of people freaking out because someone used the phrase “take care” in a text message. Have things been going well? Do you have plans to meet at some point? Then, it is entirely possible that “take care,” means simply… take care. It’s a standard sign-off like “bye” or “peace.” Don’t get yourself worked up over two four-letter words.
Sometimes, “Busy” Just Means “Busy”
If he says that he has to work or study, take him at his word. Also, do not freak out when you don’t hear back from someone right away. Think about all of the things that take up your time during the day. He has the same sort of commitments.
Just Pick Up the Phone Already
And use it to talk. Yes, texting can be less intimidating. But, you are never going to figure out where you stand without the subtleties that can come from chatting on the phone, or even better, talking to each other face to face. Yes, you may wind up rejected. But, wouldn’t you rather know for sure that agonize over the significance of every character of a text message?
In the end, you’ll be far more content if you talk directly and quit trying to figure out what he is thinking. Calm down a bit and be less attached to possible outcomes in a relationship. If you enjoy someone’s company, simply be happy during the times you are together, and find something more fun than overanalyzing 140 characters of text when you are not. Not only will you keep from driving yourself crazy, your relationship will probably benefit as well.