6/21/2012 10:59 AM
If you’re a member of Planet Love Match for more than a few days, chances are good that someone (or many someones) will reach out to you. However, you may not be interested in every single that sends a chat request or introductory email your way. Here’s how to deal with the men and women who don’t float your boat.
First, it’s not necessary to reply to each and every email you receive. There’s no rule that says you must send a “thanks, but no thanks” message or let someone know why you think the two of you aren’t a good match. In fact, rejection explanations can backfire as they may cause singles to feel hurt and defensive, prompting them to send an angry response. It's fine to ignore email from incompatible singles and move on.
Similarly, you don't have to respond to every chat request. You can instead ignore unwanted invites or use one of Planet Love Match’s chat deny messages. To view and save the pre-written messages, simply hover over the “My Pages” tab and then select “My Settings.” Scroll down until you see the “Deny Chat Messages” options. You may choose from a variety of messages, ranging from the polite (“No, thanks!”) to the not-so-polite (“Not even a chance.”). A confirmation window will appear each time you make or delete a selection.
If you do send a rejection email or chat message, be firm but polite. Say something like you don’t really think the two of you are a good match, but that you wish him or her the best of luck on PLM. Some singles may be persistent in an attempt to change your mind, and when this happens you can repeat your initial rejection, ignore the messages and/or block the persistent member.
Rejection is an inevitable part of online dating, and you’ll almost certainly receive emails and chat invites from singles you could live without out. When this happens, either ignore the unwanted advances or politely, but firmly, let the person down.