9/18/2012 11:02 AM
Everybody has a set of dealbreakers: all of that stuff that they just won’t accept from a potential romantic partner. On Twitter, lots of people are posting quite emphatically on the #wecantbetogetherif hash tag. Some of the most common reasons you can’t get with the tweep of your dreams:
Your vices (or lack thereof). Several people say that smoking cigarettes is enough of a turn-off that they’ll choose not to date you if they discover that you are a smoker. On the other hand, a good few said that they won’t date someone who doesn’t smoke marijuana, so, it appears that there’s someone for everyone out there.
Divided attention. Still into your ex? Got an eye for every cute thing that passes by? Work on getting over your last relationship and at least using a little discretion when you are looking at other ladies to increase your chances at romance.
Incompatible tastes. Reasons on people’s lists ranged from “you don’t like cats” to “you listen to country” to “you don’t listen to country.” This makes sense, since sharing common interests gives you a lot more to do together. On the other hand, you need to be reasonable about your limitations. We wish the best of luck to the handful of twitterers who said that they wouldn’t date anyone who doesn’t love Taylor Swift.
Fitness and grooming failures. Most of the people who posted on this tag are looking for someone who is careful in clothing choices and who is reasonably fit. I think that one female twitterer’s post is fair enough: “We can’t be together if your boobs are bigger than mine are.”
Assorted other reasons. Some people were adamant about not wanting someone who was controlling. Others want to make sure they are with someone who’s going to want to pay enough attention to them. Still others insist upon cuddlers, sushi fans or a dozen more specifications. In the end, finding the right person for you comes down to dozens of areas of compatibility and attraction. Keep an open mind, but be realistic about what sorts of qualities are probably too much for you to handle in a relationship.