10/2/2012 10:04 AM
Everyone has their deal breaker issues; those qualities that you simply cannot accept from someone you are with. And, that is healthy. Usually, these issues will revolve around maintaining your own health and sanity. Several people shared the reasons they won’t stay with someone. Some of the top ones:
“Because you are always preaching about how every male is fake. Girls who categorize a whole gender are stupid.”
It can be very easy to fall into the “all men are ____” or “all women are ____” trap when you’re dealing with frustrations in your dating life. But, blaming an entire gender for the misdeeds of a few is only going to make you bitter. If you’ve been mistreated the same way in more than one relationship, look at similarities in those partners beyond what they’re sporting between their legs. That way, you can detect the pattern in the choices you’ve made and steer clear of them in the future.
“You can't admit it when you're wrong. Your ego is on steroids and you're too drunk off your pride.”
Every relationship has two people in it, and both of them are important. If you screw up, a sincere apology will go a lot farther toward keeping things peaceful than denying responsibility will.
“You act differently around your friends.” And “You care more about what your friends think than what you want.”
We’re adults, right? Yet, too many people still feel the need to get the approval of their friends before they enter a relationship with someone. If you meet someone, enjoy their company, and see a future together, your friends don’t need to like them.
“You lie.” And “You’re manipulative.”
For reasons that should be obvious, these are both major deal breakers. No one should put up with a partner who deceives them, or one who tries to make them feel bad.
If you find yourself drawn back to a bad relationship, take the time to seriously think about whether or not you are happy with how you were treated. There are plenty of quality singles out there who are loyal, appreciative and loving. Tell your poorly behaved ex the reasons you can’t be together, and make a pledge to find the person you deserve.