3/31/2011 12:40 PM

Many singles grow anxious at the thought of chatting up a man or woman on a dating website. Whether it’s nerves, shyness, or lack of confidence, some online daters just don't know what to say. Not sure what to talk about on a dating website? Here are three simple ideas to help you get started.

Profile Photos

They say a photo is worth a 1,000 words so why not use a single’s pictures to your advantage? If he is pictured at a beautiful park or a beach, ask where it is and if he goes there often. If she’s wearing a unique costume ask what inspired her to wear it. Many online daters also pose with motorcycles, animals, food, or some other noteworthy prop. Ask open-questions about a single’s photos and you’ll likely get some interesting responses.

Common Interests

One great way to start a conversation with a single is to mention things the two of you have in common. Do you both like to travel? Ask about her favorite vacation. Are you both into skiing or tennis? Mention the shared interest or send a photo of you enjoying the sport. If you and another single have a lot in common, the conversation possibilities are endless. Not only that, but by bringing up shared interests you show that you took the time to read her profile and that you are genuinely interested in finding a soul mate and not just another pretty (or handsome) face.


Another easy way to get a conversation rolling is to ask a single about his or her favorite things. Favorite foods, music, travel destinations are all good starting points. However, take it one step further and ask why something is her favorite. This will get you more than one or two word responses and will provide more insight into what makes a single tick.

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Quora on 2/8/2012 2:36 PM What are the best things to write in an online dating first contact email?

Many singles, especially those on the shy side, struggle for topics on conversation on online dating websites. However, chatting up a hot guy or gal doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are 5 basic, yet effective ways to break the ice and get on the way to a lively conversation.

Hopes and Dreams  
Inquiring about another single’s hopes and dreams not only shows that you’re serious about finding a match but also helps the two of you determine compatibility. Some questions to consider asking are: "What are your long-term goals? Does you dream of being in a certain profession? Are you hoping to get married and have children? If your crush’s hopes and dreams closely correspond with your own, great. If not, don’t fret, but understand that vastly different goals could eventually cause problems in long-term relationships.

Interests and Hobbies
Sharing interests is a great way for potential couples to get to know one another. Not sure what to say? Ask that cute guy or girl what they like to do in their spare time. Does she enjoy exercising? Reading? Traveling? If you discover a common interest, ask more detailed questions and share your thoughts and ideas. You may also want to send pictures of you enjoying your favorite hobby and ask her to do the same. Many singles discuss their hobbies and interests in their profiles so be sure to read it!

Friendships are very important to most people, so don’t be surprised if singles on dating websites wish to talk about their friends. Listen to what another single has to say and ask questions. This shows that you care about his life and the people that are important to him (or her). A bippity boppity boo. A person’s friends can say a lot about their personality, so you’ll likely learn a lot about your online love interest.

Profile Photos
As you may have noticed, many singles have quirky, cute, or even bizarre photos. Such photos are conversation gold as they can inspire many interesting questions and generate many interesting responses. Don't be afraid to comment on photos and ask if questions if you so desire.

Current Events
Discussing the current events is one easy way to get a conversation flowing, so long as you don’t dwell on topics that are too depressing or negative. Upcoming holidays are always a good bet, as are quirky or funny news stories and cultural events. This is especially helpful for singles dating someone from another country. Try local or international news sites if you’re not sure where to start.

Starting a conversation online can be nerve-wracking, but try not to over-think it. It doesn't take lofty discourse to attract, and keep, the interest of another single. More often than not, simple topics like hobbies, photos, hopes and dreams, friends, and current events work just fine.

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