6/25/2012 2:06 PM
At this year's annual Gay Pride Parade in New York, marchers had something wonderful to celebrate -- the one year anniversary of the law that brought marriage equality to the state. On June 24, 2011, New York legislators passed The Marriage Equality Act making same sex marriage legal. New York was the fifth state to legalize same sex marriage, and remains the largest state to do so. About eight thousand marriage licenses have been issued to same sex couples in New York.
However, many couples are taking their time and not rushing to tie the knot. First, there is a lot involved in planning a wedding -- often, people will spend up to a year getting the details in order -- and, because marriage is such a huge commitment, many couples wish to spend awhile considering and make sure that it's the right choice for them. How can you tell it's time for you and your partner to tie the knot?
- You love the idea of being with this person for the rest of your life. If you find yourself thinking in terms of "after we break up" or "if I ever date anyone else," you probably are not ready to jump into "till death do us part."
- You've talked about marriage, and you both like the idea. Surprise, out-of-the-blue, proposals are only romantic in the movies. In real life, they're disconcerting and a little disrespectful.
- You are comfortable with one another's friends and families. When you marry someone, you're marrying into their families and tight social networks, as well. Make sure that you can live with all of these people as well as you can your boyfriend or girlfriend.
- You are familiar with one another's finances. Make sure neither of you is hiding some scary debt-oriented surprises.
- You agree on how finances should be handled. There is no one right way to handle personal finances. Some couples like to combine everything, others like to keep it all separate. The important thing is that you and your love pick a system that works well for both of you.