12/29/2011 11:11 AM
Break-ups can be messy. There is crying, phone calls home to mom, and other dramatics. However, those are all expected, for girls. How can a guy cope with a break-up in a healthy and productive way? Fortunately we're all human, guys and girls, so a male can cope up with a break-up in the same way as a woman. In fact, men should use some of the same coping mechanisms as women.
"Boys don't cry", has been uttered by people ever since the phrase came into existence. However, even for males it is healthy to let emotions out. Guys don't have to gush their emotions in public. He can let the harsher emotions out alone for a little bit until he is ready to go out with friends. It has even been proven that trying to hold emotions on the inside can be dangerous.
Another good coping skill is to go out with your friends. A person does not need to sit at home after a break-up. He needs to go out and enjoy life. The point of going out with friends is not to prove that a man is better off single or to pick up a quick fling for the night. The point of going out is to get outside. Once the initial shock of a break-up is over, a person male or female needs to start learning how to have a good time being single.
The most important thing a man can do to cope with a break-up is to learn to be single. If a man is not happy with himself alone, he will never be in a successful relationship. Yes the break-up hurts, but now that man can be free to focus on the positive things about being single. He should not dwell on any one thing too much. Taking a trip to the store and buying the foods he wants, and organizing the bedroom room his way, can go a long way to coping with that difficult break-up.
Break-ups are never easy. It's much easier to cope after a break-up if he is willing to acknowledge that the relationship is over and other relationships will come. Don't be scared of them, be sure not to let them control him either. If a guy lives life and focuses on what he enjoys and he will cope just fine.
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