7/3/2012 1:56 PM
Everyone gets dumped sometime. And, it can be pretty hard on you, even if you didn't date for too long. Our tips can help you get over your break up and get back out into the world.
- Do something you rarely or never got to do when you were with your ex. I used to date a guy who had no interest in seeing movies in the theater, an activity I loved. When he suddenly left me with wide open Saturday nights, I took advantage of the chance to see every feature I'd missed. Think about things missed while you were with your ex. Did he hate your favorite restaurant? Make a date to meet some friends there to celebrate your freedom. She hated car shows? Get down to a local one to check out some classic wheels. Engaging in these favorite activities reminds you that getting dumped by your ex, however painful, has its perks.
- Take a vacation from social media. Trust me: you don't want to see where your ex is checking in. There is nothing to be gained by looking at her old online photo albums, or worse, seeing new pictures of how much fun she's having without you. It's healthy to get out and see what's going on in the offline world anyway (remember that place?). Getting offline at a time that it helps reduce the temptation to net-stalk your ex is just a bonus.
- Reconnect with your friends. Many of us have a tendency to neglect friendships when we are wound up in a new romantic relationship. Call or email buddies who you haven't seen in awhile and make plans to spend some quality time together.
- Do something to make yourself feel more sexy. Get a new haircut. Pick out some new clothes. If you feel you've let yourself go, dig up that gym membership and start working out again. Doing things that make you feel more attractive help boost your self-esteem and get over the pain of your break up. Plus, when you are ready to date again, your efforts will give you an edge.
- Organize and get rid of stuff. If you still have any of your ex's junk that was somehow not collected during the post-break up stuff exchange, donate it to a thrift store. And, while you are at it, take the opportunity to part with some of your less-loved possessions, as well. That ugly bracelet that makes your wrist hurt anyway? eBay it. The weird stuffed animal he gave you as a gift? Out it goes. Getting rid of clutter gives us space to breathe, and allows us to enjoy the stuff that we really do like.
Getting over a break up isn't something that happens overnight. You'll hurt for awhile, and you'll probably spend some time obsessing before you move on. But, soon enough, you'll be recovered from your break up, and ready to meet someone new.
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