11/30/2011 1:08 PM
I’m pretty sick of hearing people complain about their boyfriend or girlfriend's past. When you’re dating someone, you should have a grasp on their character and moral code. If you’re already with them, you clearly enjoy the person their past shaped them into, so what’s the problem?
These days giving someone your number is a little silly. It’s not the most common question on the list because society, for whatever reason, seems to embrace promiscuity. The more appropriate question should be, "Have you been tested?" Regardless, these are a few positive ways to look at their potentially tarnished history.
They Trust You
If your boyfriend/girlfriend is confiding in you about their past, you should be flattered. They aren’t required to share ancient history with you, so the fact that they are means they want you to know all of them. They are eliminating the chances of surprises down the road and being completely honest and upfront with you. That’s a pretty admirable trait, even for someone who’s made a few wrong turns in year’s past.
It’s Nothing Against You
Their past has absolutely nothing to do with you. You have an impact on their present and their future, but you weren’t a part of their life when they were with exes or went a little buck wild in their younger days. As long as that part of them is out of their system, you’re fine. Not to mention, you’re getting the best version of them. They’ve made mistakes and learned from them. Now they can concentrate on doing things the right way with you.
A Little Jealousy Never Hurt Anyone
Jealousy can be flattering in small doses. Be open and honest about your feelings. Don’t go mutilating any of their exes or anything, but saying that you can’t stand the thought of them being with someone else is a pretty nice compliment. Just remember, this is only attractive in SMALL doses!
At the end of the day, you’re with your partner because you connect with them. They would never be the person they are now if they hadn’t had the life experiences in their past. As much as you dislike certain details in their history, accept it for what it is and move on. You get to be with the person they became, not who they used to be!
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