7/1/2011 4:24 PM
Lindsay commented on our "Observations on Dating Otherkin" article, so we contacted her for more information about her personal otherkin experiences.
Some days her phantom wings feel really intense. Other days she contemplates whether those feelings are only in her head. Was she really a dragon in a past life, or are her otherkin experiences purely psychological?
While 29-year-old Lindsay has identified with draconity for over 15 years, she has accepted that she will never know the truth. However, she does know that people unfamiliar with otherkin may think dating one would be weird.
From elves and fairies to therians and dragons, otherkin identify with a wide variety of animals, mythological creatures, and other non-human beings. While this concept may sound strange to most people, otherkin lead relatively normal lives.
Lindsay suggests starting an otherkin relationship by focusing on how they deal with their beliefs, rather than the actual beliefs themselves. “I think it’s good to be tolerant if your partner has a unique belief system, but not if they have an unhealthy attitude towards life,” she says.
One thing that people tend to find fascinating about dating otherkin is their cute, quirky character traits. Everyone has them to some degree, but animalistic attributes can be very attractive. Some acts are simple like the way they sit in a chair or how they concentrate intently on things. Others experience extremely heightened senses and become increasingly affectionate. “Most otherkin are able to behave normally in public, but it's nice if we have license to be ourselves privately with our significant other,” Lindsay says.
Another benefit of dating someone in this community is getting to accompany them to otherkin gathers, comforting camping trips with spiritual workshops and discussions. Learning more about this sub-culture is enlightening to both partners and helps them form a closer relationship.
People who bypass the initial bizarreness, realize that otherkin are loving, caring individuals who are just playing with the hand they were dealt. “Ask just about any otherkin and they will tell you that we didn’t choose to be this way,” says Lindsay.
Dating a dragon isn’t dangerous. Drop into a dungeon sometime.