9/17/2012 4:44 PM
If you are a lady who is getting married soon, and you are starting to have doubts, think twice about going through with it. A recent study indicates that cold feet can be a sign of bad things to come. Researchers found that women who had doubts before the wedding were two and a half times more likely to divorce in the first for years of marriage. And, among those who stayed married, they reported lower levels of satisfaction with the relationship than those who had no doubts going in.
A team of researchers in LA interviewed 232 couples during the first few months of marriage. During the initial interview, they asked both men and women whether they’d had any uncertainty about getting married. About 43% of men said yes, while 38% of women did. While the guys were more likely to have second thoughts, uncertain women were the more likely indicators of future discord.
Nearly twenty percent of women who reported second thoughts were divorced within four years. Among women who had no doubts going in, only 8% got divorced. Among the guys, 14% of those who had cold feet got divorced while 9% of those who went in happy ended their marriages.
The researchers say that their findings do not mean that you should not get married. However, the scientists urged those who have doubts about a relationship to address them before getting married. For instance, if you are not comfortable with your fiancé’s spending habits, talk to one another before you get married. You may, for instance, decide that one of you should set a budget, or that you should keep your finances somewhat separate. If the two of you have conflicts over division of housework or other issues, work those out before you tie the knot. While you are not able to predict whether or not you and your future spouse will be the ones with the happily ever after story, you can increase your chances by making sure that, on the subjects that are important to you, you are both on the same page.