7/27/2012 4:02 PM
As ever, the Twitterverse has a lot of feelings. Today, it has feelings about all the things you should never do in a relationship, tweeted under the hashtag #TheRelationshipDonts. Are you committing relationship sins that could expose you to the withering judgment of the denizens of Twitter? Read on to find out:
Don’t be open and honest to your friends about your relationship issues if you can’t do the same with who you're with
This is pretty much just good common sense. Telling all your friends about how you are unhappy in your relationship isn’t going to do any good unless you are willing to work with your partner, too.
Don’t ignore their calls. Uhhh what are you doing? Answer the phone STOOPIT!
This one is a no-brainer. It’s okay to be busy sometimes with work or hobbies. But, if you catch yourself hitting the “ignore” button when you’re sitting around playing video games, it’s time to think hard about whether you should be with them.
DON'T talk to your exes. DON'T mention your exes. DON'T compare me to your exes. DON'T say nothin with EX in it. :)’
As I’ve mentioned before, I don’t agree with this advice entirely. Exes make great friends, and they can actually help your current relationship by giving you much needed perspective. But, if there are any lingering feelings, you & your ex are going to need a little space. And, comparing someone you are with to an ex – particularly if the comparison is negative – is just crappy behavior.
Don't go one day without saying "I love you."
I am a big fan of letting the person you are with know that they are loved and appreciated. And, don’t just stop at the words. Make sure you let them know you care in other ways, too. Make dinners that they like. Pick up a book you know they’ve been dying to read. Or, if there’s a household chore that you know they hate, do it for them.
Don't forget to spend time with your friends. No one likes a friend who disappears once they're in a relationship.
No matter how much you love the person you are with, you need to make sure that you nurture your other relationships, as well. Friends make us more well-rounded people. A broader support network means that we don’t need to go to just one person for all of our needs. And, being a good friend means not flaking on your friends just because you are seeing someone new.